“Etiquette Lessons for Children” is not to be missed, too bad!

There are “rites” all over the world, etiquette is a required course of life.Such examples of life education are increasing, which is a sign of the rapid progress of our whole society. A child’s etiquette and morality is the need to cultivate from a young age, if you do not pay attention to this aspect of education, the child may achieve results in other aspects, but will never become an elegant, high-quality member of the society, is likely to stumble on the word “education”. We don’t want that to happen, so we need to raise our children to be polite and educated from now on.

Short story Five more miles.

In ancient times, there was a man who had been pampered by his family since childhood and developed an arrogant and domineering character. Unfortunately, his family’s fortunes fell and he had to make a living by himself, but he still did not change his habits and suffered a lot of losses. One day, he finally found a job, is to go to a temple to do small work. He hurried to a strange town. While walking, he lost his way and didn’t know where to go. At this moment, he happened to have an old uncle passing by. Without another word, he stepped in front of his uncle and shouted: “Hey, old man! Tell me where the Temple of Gratitude is! How much further is it? I’m so tired!” The manner was insolent and rude.

The old man looked at him, but did not get angry, but said calmly: “There are still five li (rudeness).” He walked on for five miles without even saying a word of thanks, but still could not see the temple of Gratitude. At this time, thinking of the old uncle’s words, he realized: the old man is saying that I am rude! He realized how disgusting his words and actions had been. With great determination, he finally got rid of his rudeness.

No rules no square, how to discipline children understand etiquette.

A child is like a blank sheet of paper, and the process of growing up is to color the blank sheet of paper. We spend energy on positive, positive education for children, but no education is without discipline, etiquette education also needs discipline. When people say “discipline”, they think it is similar to the ancient teacher with a ruler to punish, but it is not so. When it comes to the education of children, discipline is never out of fashion and is very necessary. In the child’s education, we should not only tube, more to teach, especially in the cultivation of etiquette literacy, more to correct the child’s wrong attitude, speech and behavior, teach the child to know what is right. There are many parents will children’s education simply boils down to a “pipe” word, often ignore the “teach”. It’s like at work, where you see a problem but never come up with a solution. It doesn’t work.

In today’s society, everyone has a lot of pressure, especially young parents, “authority” in the word “right” extremely disgusted and conflict. As a result, some parents go to the other extreme — laissez-faire, not wanting to let their children suffer any frustration or injustice. After all, education is a long-term, patient process, but some parents often due to a variety of subjective or objective reasons, lack of patience, sometimes uncontrollable to vent emotions to children, and later feel guilty. This will harm children’s mental health and bring negative energy to children’s growth. This vicious circle eventually leads to insecurities in children, and the ability to “please” parents by adjusting their own behavior and demands to respond to their parents’ emotions often results in a deviation of their values.

In the process of raising children, parents do not know how to discipline, or do not have the time and energy to discipline, which is actually condoning children’s mistakes; Lack of proper guidance from parents, society and school at the age when they should be restrained and guided will make children grow up without the ability to distinguish right from wrong.

In addition, discipline is a systematic engineering, not a simple right and wrong, but a gradual process with the appreciation, love and long-term companionship of parents. Only in this way can the child grow up to be a noble person with high EQ and IQ and better integrate into the society.

So what exactly is discipline? The Jews, considered the wisest people in the world, have a proverb: “Train a child in the way he should go, and he will not stray from it in old age.” As for the cultivation of etiquette, discipline should start from a very young age, and observe and feel the growth of children all the time. As your child gets older, gradually give him age-appropriate freedom and the courage and responsibility to take responsibility for his actions.

Discipline presupposes building a close relationship and requires parental initiative to develop the right responses and behaviors for the child in the future before things happen. Punishment, on the other hand, is to wait until after the fact to investigate the cause and consequences of the child’s mistake. Therefore, discipline brings a greater sense of security to children. It helps children understand the rules and boundaries of life and work.

Discipline should adopt a certain method, never a one-size-fits-all. It needs to be gradual and logical, not threatening, compromising, suppressing, or needlessly consuming. The premise of discipline is the principle of prior agreement, let the child understand early on to bear the consequences of violating the agreement. This is actually a restraint and warning to him, successful discipline will not let the child easily cross the line.

Research suggests that the best time to discipline a child is before the age of six, and that as children grow, the role of parent should gradually change from teacher to tell-all friend. In other words, the discipline should be adjusted according to the specific situation of the child, rather than according to the same method. On the issue of children’s education, we must avoid the lazy thinking of “carving boats and seeking swords”.