The Possibilities of Personality Change
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A few years ago, my colleague Olga Khazan conducted an experiment—“sample size: 1”—to see whether she could change her personality. “I’ve never really liked my personality, and other people don’t like it either,” she wrote. “In grad school, a partner and I were assigned to write fake obituaries for each other by interviewing our families and friends. The nicest thing my partner could shake out of my loved ones was that I ‘really enjoy grocery shopping.’”
Personally, I’d say enjoying grocery shopping is the mark of a curious and fun-loving person. (What’s better than a Sunday afternoon in the snack aisle?) But Olga believed that she could make herself happier by changing her personality, so she gave herself three months to become friendlier and more extroverted—and came to learn that incremental personality change counts as real change. “Being slightly different is still being different—the same you but with better armor,” she wrote.
Today’s newsletter explores why people are so drawn to measuring their personality, and what we can do with that information.
On Personality
I Gave Myself Three Months to Change My Personality
By Olga Khazan
The results were mixed.
Read the article.
What Your Favorite Personality Test Says About You
By Kelly Conaboy
Are you a Myers-Briggs person, an Enneagram person, or something else?
The Atlantic made a quiz to help you find out.
Read the article.
The Mystery of Partner ‘Convergence’
By Faith Hill
Couples’ personalities can become more similar over time—but the causes are still enigmatic.
Read the article.
Still Curious?
- The truth about people who have no personality: They actually just keep their opinions to themselves, Olga wrote in 2019.
- A profession is not a personality: Reducing yourself to any single characteristic, whether it be your title or your job performance, is a deeply damaging act, Arthur C. Brooks wrote in 2021.
Other Diversions
- Not everyone needs to go to therapy.
- The sad future of grocery shopping
- The new age of endless parenting
P.S.
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